I stole this post from Merri because I thought it would be safer for me to write it
Anyways, this will be OUR side of the story. I swear upon the Dark Lord’s ruined soul that it is completely true. In fact, I swear on all the martial arts training I have EVER done, that it is true.
But keep in mind that this is OUR side of the story. River will tell you something different. It is up to you to decide which of us is telling the truth.
The entire thing started with the election. I think everyone here knows about that, and how no one REALLY wanted me to be the leader. I get it. I KNOW I’m not the leader, and I never pretended to myself that I was.
During that time, I posted an article, one that can also be found here.
I meant that article as a reminder that we should be conscious of how we act, and that we should try to be polite, respectful, and at least try to type correctly (we all know what a Grammar Nazi I am!) Apparently River took great offense to this article, saying that I was indirectly insulting her and that I had no right to do so. She was quite angry with me. I tried to explain to her that I wasn’t insulting her, I knew I wasn’t the leader, and that I was simply suggesting things, not ordering them, but she wouldn’t listen.
Trix, understandably, leapt to my defense, saying some things that were, perhaps, a little rude, but in my opinion, completely justified. This started what is known as World War Three on the DE RP spot. As I playfully put it,
It’s World War Three!
They’s creepin’ through cyberspace
They’s got them red pens out
Tryna fix em, so y’all need to
Hide your shorthand, hide your text talk
And hide your keyboard
Cuz them Grammar Nazis are correcting everybody out there!
Later on, I chat messaged River to see if we could correct the misunderstanding, she told me to “leave me alone” and posted on the DE RP wall,
“I’m FURIOUS! Giatrix and Lexa NEVER speak to me again!”
By this time, things had gotten really out of hand. Trix and River were at each other’s throats, I was the angriest I’d ever been, and I had come to realize that Trix and I couldn’t peacefully co-exist with River on the DE RP spot after what had taken place. I posted a brief article saying that I was leaving DE RP, and that I hoped we could still be friends even if I wasn’t roleplaying anymore. The general consensus was that things could be fixed and that I shouldn’t leave.
An hour or so later, River opened chat with me, telling me,
“keep in mind that i’m FAR from forgiving you, but are you leaving? the DERP?”
I found this quite rude, seeing as I had tried to speak with her earlier and was brushed off. I responded a but rudely and started complaining to Trix, who had also received a chat message from River saying,
“Not that I forgive you or hate you any less while asking this question, but are you leaving? the DERP?”
Trix also responded rudely, but I think she was a bit more justified in it than I was…
I took a screencap of my conversation and sent it to Trix to show her, since I was too lazy to retype it. A couple minutes later, this image had been uploaded to DE RP by Trix:
Before anyone has a chance to say so, I would like to acknowledge that this was very stupid. I should not have screencapped my conversation, and Trix should not have posted it. It was wrong and immature and stupid. I know.
River quickly responded by saying that this screencap was edited so that it didn’t show all the mean things we had said to her. Apparently I told her to “burn in hell”. I’m an atheist, I don’t believe in hell, nor do I tend to insult people with fictional places (in my opinion at least.)
Of course, there was no way for anyone to tell who was speaking the truth, so the tension rose even higher. We argued back and forth for a bit but nothing was resolved or even came close to being discussed reasonably.
That night I sent a quick note to River saying that we should privately discuss our problems so that the rest of the spot wouldn’t be subjected to watching our arguments. I suggested a thing called Radical Honesty which I had found useful in similar situations before. For reasons unknown, River decided to post her reply publicly on Fanpop. Her reply has been deleted, but the gist of it was this:
“I don’t really hate Lexa, I was just angry that one time. I’ll stop complaining about the election now. I absolutely HATE Giatrix though! She’s a jealous bitch! I never listen to what anyone tells me, and I’m a whiny bitch who has to get her way. Lastly, that screencap is a lie and we all know it!”
I find this offensive. First of all, there was a REASON I asked to discuss this in private, it was so that she and Trix couldn’t fight, and so that the spot members wouldn’t have to watch. Secondly, in my unprofessional opinion, this behaviour is bordering on passive aggressive (I display it myself from time to time,) please (I’m being genuine here, no sarcasm at all,) correct me if I’m wrong, but her exact words were, “This may be a flaw on my part, but I never listen to what anyone tells me,” Preceding a trait with, “This may be a flaw,” will always make you sound humble and insecure, making people feel pathos towards you. I find this really pathetic. Spit out the truth!
Anyways. So we had this huge fight with lots of nasty things, and then I decided I would try once more to broker peace.
I opened a chat with River asking to peacefully attempt to resolve OUR issues before we tried to fix things between her and Trix. Before I say what we spoke about, let me make one thing clear. We agreed that this conversation would be private. I am about to break that agreement. But I am only doing so because she broke it first, therefore all that anyone knows is HER side of the story. This is unacceptable. In a fight, I will always let my opponent tell their story, whether I approve or not. River has not invited me to share, so I’m doing it on my own:
During our conversation, I brought up the biggest issue between the three of us; the screencap. I asked her why she was lying about it. Her response was that she was doing it in self defense. Trix posted the pic and River panicked. She did the only thing she could think of. She lied to make herself look better, and make us look worse. Don’t get me wrong, I’ve done it before too! But I have always confessed the truth and made friends at the end of it all.
River and I uncovered that she was angriest at Trix for posting the picture, and Trix was angriest at River for lying about it. In my eyes, the logical thing to do here is confess the truth, and then take down the screencap! Voila, problem solved!
It wasn’t that simple, but then again, things never are. River said that she couldn’t confess the truth for fear that the DE RP members would hate her for lying, and she also added that they might thing if River lied about this, maybe she lied about being our friend! I tried to tell her that DE RP members were reasonable people and wouldn’t be that cruel, but she thought otherwise. I even told her that I would vouch for her and stand by her if she told the truth. She told me that to most people on the spot, my opinion wasn’t worth anything, so it didn’t matter.
Finally, I realized that it was all in vain. I told her that if she wasn’t willing to tell the truth, I would truly leave the spot. I was willing to try to solve the problem, but not if she wasn’t going to meet me half way. She told me that it was my own decision and not to blame it on her.
So I told her goodbye, deleted her as a fan, and unsubscribed from DE RP, deleting most of my comments, articles, and answers.
“I set a reasonable condition with an open ended time limit. River refused, therefore I am leaving. Goodbye all, I’m not coming back until the truth outs. Trix, please stop fighting my battle for me. It’s no one’s battle anymore. A fight requires two people”
Was my official wall post. It was followed by,
“I agree with Lexa. This isn’t worth it. Congrats River, you win, since you think of everything as a contest. Stupid anarchist. Isn’t mutual hate beautiful?”
From Trix, and then,
“Giatrix and Lexa left. Some people might think it’s because of me. Honestly, I don’t care anymore. Leaving was their choice. All I can say, I tried. It’s done. Love me or hate me, I really don’t care at this point.”
From River. (It’s good that you don’t care River, because I am dangerously close to hating you)
That is where the story ends, everything after this is an “Epilogue” so to speak.
Although I had officially left DE RP, I was still curious about what was happening there. I admit it, I was lurking. I saw a new RP go up, and I was happy with that, but I also saw a wall post that made me sad.
“& Just so you know, the “condition” was totally unreasonable. If you want to know what it was, message me, I’ll tell you. It was unreasonable and unfair”
From River. When I opened that chat with her, we agreed that it was to be confidential. I wasn’t even going to tell Trix. When I saw this post, I threw away the informal contract. Ripped it to metaphorical shreds. It obviously isn’t enough that we’ve left and she is now alone with her “friends,” she has to continue to disrespect us? The first rule of martial arts is “Respect your opponent,” I have learned this the hard way. I hope that River does too.
Wow. That was a lot of thinking and writing. I think I’m finished…
Now before I start slipping into passive aggressive WHY DON’T YOU LOVE ME ANYMORE? mode, I think I should conclude this.
Everything I have written is the truth. I hate lies almost as much as I hate stupidity. I love the idea of Radical Honesty! I’m not trying to force you to pick sides, I presenting you with my side of the story, and if you believe me, thank you very much. If you don’t believe me, I would still like to be friends
But let me make myself very clear, I like you all very much, but if you start actively fighting against me, all thoughts of friendship will be gone, and unless you genuinely realise your mistake at the end of it all, I will probably not want much to do with you.
That being said, I don’t care if you believe River over me, as long as you aren’t in my face screaming ‘”YOU LIAR!”
I didn’t swear once in that entire article!